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Be INFORMED B4 U Birth!
Your Children Have Rights Over You!
Remember that your children are a loaner, and they will return to Allah the Creator one day. It is your job as the mother, to raise these children correctly to the best of your abilities. This includes giving the child his/her rights. Some of these rights include: Clothing, keeping them clean, teaching them manners, giving them an education, and feeding them: "The lady is a guardian and is resposible for her husband's house and his offspring." Sahih Al Bukhari Therefore; While the husband is working and establishing his salaah in the masjid; the wife must be keeping the children safe and healthy. Be sure to teach them the salaah: "Order your children with salaah at the age of seven and beat them (about it) at the age of ten." Sunan Abu Daud vol.1 - Declared hasan sahih by Shaykh Al Bani. Be sure that your Child says 'Bismillah' before he/she eats or puts on their clothes etc. Be sure that they say 'Alhumdulillah after they eat or when they sneeze (Sahih Al Bukhari -Book of Manners) or when they have accomplished something, etc. Make sure they know these things so they can impliment the truth, and so that they can be rewarded with Jannatul Firdaws, inshallah. Dont forget about the food they eat! Feed your children the Halal food that Allah has Permitted in the quran, 6:119 -121. Also give them lots of vegetables and home cooked meals. In this day and age it is so easy to run to a restaurant and buy dinner. But you stop and remember what is healthier for them. The children are innocent and only know what they are taught or what they are forbidden against. Discpline them, but be careful! The children have earned your affection so give it to them! Once the Prophet (Peace and Blessings Be Upon Him) kissed Al Hasan; Al Aqra Ibn Habis At Tamimi was sitting near him and said upon seeing that, "I have ten children and I have never kissed anyone of them, 'Allah's Messenger Alayhi salaam cast a look at him and said 'Whosoever is not merciful to others will not be treated mercifully" Sahih Al Bukhari. O you who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allah, but do that which they are commanded. (At-Tahrim 66:6) Pain: It’s a Good Thing! Some women are bit hesitant on giving birth Naturally; that is without having any medications while in labor. But; my sister there is good for us in pain! The Prophet Muhammad Salla llahu layhi wa salaam (peace and blessing from Allah be upon him) said “No Fatigue, no disease, nor hurt, nor sadness, nor distress befalls a Muslim Even if it were the prick of a thorn But that Allah Expiates some of his sins for that”.Sahih Al Bukhari And if Death should befall you while giving birth, You will taken a Martyr, Subhannallah! The Prophet Muhammad Sallahu alayhi wa salaam mentioned 7 Martyrs other than those who are killed in jihad; those who die because of:PlagueAbdominal diseaseDrowningUnderneath Debris / from a falling buildingBurnedPneumonia And Delivery or Childbirth (Sahih AlBukhari)
Repeat c-sections raise risk of complications
NEW YORK (Reuters Health) - As the number of
c-sections increases, so
does the risk of bowel injury, intensive care unit
admission and other maternal
complications, according to a report in the medical
journal Obstetrics and Gynecology.
In light of this finding, "the number of intended
pregnancies should be considered during counseling regarding elective repeat cesarean operation versus a trial of labor and when debating the merits of elective primary cesarean delivery," lead author Dr. Robert M. Silver, from the University of Utah School of Medicine in Salt Lake City, and colleagues note.
The findings are based on analysis of data for 30,132
women who underwentc-section without labor in 19 academic centers from 1999 to 2002. A total of 6,201 women were having their first c-section, 15,808 were having a second, 6,324 a third, 1,452 a fourth, 258 a fifth, and 89 women already had five or
more cesarean deliveries, the investigators report.
The risk of complications, including urinary or bowel
injury, the need for a ventilator after delivery, ICU admission, blood
transfusion of four or more units, and placenta problems were directly related to the number of previous
cesarean deliveries. In addition, the length of
surgery and hospital stay rose as the number of c-sections increased.
For example, the rate of placenta accreta (when the
placenta implants too far into the uterus) ranged from 0.24 percent in
first-time c-section patients to 6.74 percent in women who had six or more c-sections. In women with placenta previa (when the placenta implants too close to the cervix)
the rates were much higher, ranging from 3 percent in
first-time c-section patients to 67 percent in women who had five or more c-sections.
The hysterectomy rate was lowest in second-time
c-section patients and highest in those who had at least six c-sections,
ranging from 0.42 percent to 8.99 percent, respectively.
"Women planning large families should consider the
risks of repeat cesarean deliveries when contemplating elective cesarean delivery or attempted
vaginal birth after cesarean delivery," the authors conclude.
SOURCE: Obstetrics and Gynecology, June 2006.
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Muslima0midwife@email.com Please include the source of your information (book? volume? chapter? page? author? etc.) I will email you to confirm whether or not it will be accepted and posted on this site, inshallah. 20 Reasons Y Planned Home Births R Safer Births! (Make INFORMED Decisions) 1. Home is convenient. No driving necessary! 2. You’re surrounded by people who love you and care for you. (no limitations on how many people u can have at your birth) 3. Personal care & attention by the midwife/birth assistant. 4. No strangers will walk in… including Male doctors, the janitor, the food tray lady, etc.! 5. No staff switching… The same people are with you the entire time. 6. No interventions unless absolutely necessary > means less complications. 7. Greatly Reduced chance of needing a cesarean section. 8. Greatly Reduced chance of an episiotomy or even perineal tearing. 9. No rushed labor or birth. 10. Your body is immune to the bacteria in your home and is less toxic than a hospital. 11.Little to no psychological stress. 12. You can eat while in labor. 13. You have more control over what happens to your body. 14. Less Birth Injuries!! Your baby can be born with less torture. (ex. No scalp electrode, aspiration pneumonia or separation from mom) 15. You are more likely to be able to birth a breech baby. 16. Less chances of placenta tearing… Homebirth Midwives do not pull on the umbilical cords for placental delivery (like in hospitals). 17. You’re less likely to have post partum Hemorrhaging. 18. You’re less likely to suffer post partum Depression. 19. More likely to have a Successful VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean). 20. You’re more empowered & Informed > and will recover faster (than in a hospital).
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Breast Feeding: The Command
The mothers shall give suck to their children for two whole years, (that is) for those (parents) who desire to complete the term of suckling, but the father of the child shall bear the cost of the mother's food and clothing on a reasonable basis. No person shall have a burden laid on him greater than he can bear. No mother shall be treated unfairly on account of her child, nor father on account of his child. And on the (father's) heir is incumbent the like of that (which was incumbent on the father). If they both decide on weaning, by mutual consent, and after due consultation, there is no sin on them. And if you decide on a foster suckling-mother for your children, there is no sin on you, provided you pay (the mother) what you agreed (to give her) on reasonable basis. And fear Allah and know that Allah is All-Seer of what you do. (Al-Baqarah 2:233)
Dont you think that Breastfeeding is the better option anway? Look at all the chemicals inside infant formulas! Most people cant even pronounce them! They cost too much money; while breastmilk is FREE! Scientific studies have shown that Breastmilk is healthier for infants and help build up their immune system faster because of all of the naural nutrients it has. You never have to warm up your breast either, The milk comes out warm! It has that sweet taste that babies love. And unlike formula you dont have to decied who's brand of breastmilk you're going to use! The biggest and most Important reason that you should breastfeed is That your Lord has commanded it. Surely Allah knows what is better for us.
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The Clot ...
| Has created man from a clot (a piece of thick coagulated blood). (Al-'Alaq 96:2)*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~* | O mankind! If you are in doubt about the Resurrection, then verily! We have created you (i.e. Adam) from dust, then from a Nutfah (mixed drops of male and female sexual discharge i.e. offspring of Adam), then from a clot (a piece of thick coagulated blood) then from a little lump of flesh, some formed and some unformed (miscarriage), that We may make (it) clear to you (i.e. to show you Our Power and Ability to do what We will). And We cause whom We will to remain in the wombs for an appointed term, then We bring you out as infants, then (give you growth) that you may reach your age of full strength. And among you there is he who dies (young), and among you there is he who is brought back to the miserable old age, so that he knows nothing after having known. And you see the earth barren, but when We send down water (rain) on it, it is stirred (to life), it swells and puts forth every lovely kind (of growth). (Al-Hajj 22:5) *~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*
Then We made the Nutfah into a clot (a piece of thick coagulated blood), then We made the clot into a little lump of flesh, then We made out of that little lump of flesh bones, then We clothed the bones with flesh, and then We brought it forth as another creation. So blessed be Allah, the Best of creators. (Al-Mu'minun 23:14) *~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*
He, it is Who has created you (Adam) from dust, then from a Nutfah [mixed semen drops of male and female discharge (i.e. Adam's offspring)] then from a clot (a piece of coagulated blood), then brings you forth as children, then (makes you grow) to reach the age of full strength, and afterwards to be old (men and women), though some among you die before, and that you reach an appointed term, in order that you may understand. (Ghafir 40:67)
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Fatwa Regaurding Homebirth
A man assisting a woman during the birth process
*Please appropriately reference this fatwa to: www.fatwa-online.com, thankyou!*
Question: What is the ruling regarding a man assisting a woman whilst she is giving birth? Response: In principle, it is not permissible to say the admitting of a woman to hospital to give birth is outright permissible, rather it is imperative to define the constraints (within which it is permissible). So if the female doctor is of the opinion, based upon her knowledge, that this pregnant woman will not be having a natural birth, and she could quite possibly require a caesarean, then in this case she is to be transferred to the hospital. As for a natural birth, then it is not permissible for her to leave her home and be admitted to the hospital simply to have a natural birth. If the woman is in (genuine) need of being admitted to the hospital, then it is obligatory that a male doctor is not appointed to assist her in the birth process. However, if one (female doctor) is not present, then there is no harm, or rather, if she is in a dangerous state and a female doctor is not present, then it is obligatory that a male doctor assist her (during the birth process). And this response is derived from two principles from the principles of usool al-fiqh, and they are:
1) Necessities permit the forbidden.
2) A necessity is assessed in accordance to its extent. So if the woman is able to give birth in her home, then it is not permissible for her to go to the hospital; (and) if she is in need such as there being no-one to assist her in the birth process then a female doctor can be appointed, and if there is none present, then a male doctor can be appointed (in her place). So in principle, it is not permissible for a woman to leave her home except where necessary, as is mentioned in Saheeh al-Bukhaaree, when the (following) statement of Allaah was revealed: {And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance}, [Soorah al-Ahzaab, Aayah 33] And he (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam) said: ((And Allaah has permitted you to go out for your needs/necessities)), [Saheeh al-Bukhaaree - Volume 1, Hadeeth Reference 40; Saheeh Muslim Volume 4, Hadeeth Reference 1709] Shaykh al-Albaanee
Fataawa Muhimmah li-Nisaa. al-Ummah Page 240 |
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